Ugly ducklings banned from dating

by michelle.sundvick | June 24, 2008 at 09:53 am | 681 views | 15 comments | 45 recommendations

        The world of dating is a frightening place, only made more so by the pressures society places on us to meet certain standards and be deemed ‘date material’. So why do all of these so called standards seem to relate to physical appearance? Is beauty really the attribute most sought after by singles? Greg Hodge, creator of a new online dating service called BeautifulPeople.com, seems to think so and has gone as far as banning ugly people from using the site.  Seems brutally superficial to me...


Now before you jump into the article I think it’s important to get the definitions of two words straight:  

 

Ugly: offensive to the sense of beauty

 

Beauty:  the quality present in a thing or person that gives intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind, whether arising from sensory manifestations (as shape, color, sound, etc.), a meaningful design or pattern, or something else (as a personality in which high spiritual qualities are manifest).

An exclusive online dating service that attempts to weed out unattractive members, allowing only the beautiful through the door, is coming to Canada.

Prospective members of the BeautifulPeople Network submit a picture and profile, and other members of the opposite sex rate the applicant over a 72-hour period, deciding whether they're worthy of joining the coveted community.

The online service even goes so far as to advertise a ban on ugliness -- something the managing director says is more a reflection of reality than evidence of arrogance.

"If you're in a bar in a romantic situation and you're going to approach someone with a romantic inclination, you're going to approach someone you're attracted to, at least initially," Greg Hodge tells Canada AM. "There's certainly nothing shallow about that, it's human nature."

Hodge says he isn't trying to define beauty. Instead, he said the organizers believe in the old maxim 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' and as such they give the power to the people -- other approved members -- to decide who is allowed in.

Including Canada, the dating service now operates in 16 countries, and Hodge attributes the success to a simple formula.

"It plays on a clever combination of four things: beauty, love, sex and money. Advertisers use those four desires to sell us pretty much everything and Beautiful People plays on a clever combination of all of that," Hodge said.

But the bottom line, Hodge says, is that the online service simply makes it easier for people -- provided they pass the attractive test -- to meet that special someone.

"People want to be with someone they're attracted to, that was the initial premise of the creation of Beautiful People, remove that first hurdle," Hodge said.

"And once you do become a member of this coveted community, you have essentially the best little black book in the world."

   I'm not exactly sure how Hodge's claim that beauty is in the eye of the beholder will hold, when 'the beholder' = the entire member base of the site. (Isn't the whole point that everyone has their own idea of what 'beautiful' is?)  It's going to take someone with thick skin to brave the judgement of this coveted community; that, or anyone who knows how to use photoshop...

 

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generaldecay
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at 10:04 on June 24th, 2008

michelle.sundvick, this is horrible.

And once you do become a member of this coveted community...

And that's the bottom line, huh! Once you've been through the ritual humiliation, the attacks on your self-esteem, the bullying of other members etc. etc. etc.

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ClosetEJL

Me & my husband met on a online website and was also asked to post our photo on this website. 

We met on facebook.com (not any dating websites) and it led to us dating and eventually getting married.  We are madly in love but find the BeautifulPeople Network very offense - everyone should be able to be a part of this website.  Everyone is beautiful in their own way!

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michelle.sundvick

Thank you for your comment and picture ClosetEJL! I couldn't agree with you more.

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amyjudd

I would NEVER be brave enough to do this! How damaging for your self esteem!

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Rob Peters

It's the oldest cliche there is, but I think beauty really is more than skin deep. If a book cover I initially find attractive turns out to house a terrible story, I take it back to the library.

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Maireid Sullivan

Not that is a funny comment!

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amyjudd

I feel the same way about a cake or pastry. If the outside looks super delicious but the inside is filled with something I don't like, I feel so disappointed I can't even put it into words. There was such hope, and now there is none...sigh...

Barbara McPherson
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at 12:21 on June 24th, 2008

michelle.sundvick, I like this story. It's good stuff.  They left out one word on the Beautiful People header -- superficial.  Do the chosen ones have to disclose their cosmetic surgery fixes I wonder?

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at 12:50 on June 24th, 2008

michelle.sundvick, I like this story. It's good stuff. Well I'd get booted in two seconds.  I compensated for my uglyness with witt and humor.  Who wants a pretty woman that has nothing else to offer.  Boring is the word I would use.

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Maireid Sullivan

You have a beautifyul wit Politisite? ;)

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politisite

What if I am at wits end?

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yuls.source

great commentary; witty writing, michelle.sundvick!

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Maireid Sullivan

I'm always on the lookout for people with a great sense of humour.

I think even if someone is or isn't physically 'gorgeous' to look at, we get past the appearances very quickly, and focus on - immerse ourselves in their whole personality.

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at 16:46 on June 24th, 2008

michelle.sundvick, I like this story. It's good stuff.

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at 05:13 on June 25th, 2008

What they're really selling is the chance for the conventionally-attractive to be part of an online clique, in a world where online cliques aren't generally dictated by appearance.

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